I really felt led to repost this blog and a little after a conversation with my cousin and friend.
I had to learn how to move forward without hearing I am sorry.
Some people had no clue they hurt me. Others were not in a place to show humility for their negative actions. I didn’t want to forgive anyone. I needed them to acknowledge they hurt me.
God allowed me to see his heart. The same heart he gave me, after I accepted him into my life. Jesus asked God to forgive those who took part in his crucifixion…while they divided his clothes, and gambled for them (Luke 23:34 The Bible). Jesus knew he was sent to die for our sins. He could not accomplish this goal without forgiving his abusers.
I have purpose. I cannot fulfill it with an unforgiving heart. God gave me the strength to forgive. It was not an EASY thing for me to do. Especially when I suffered hurt from those I love. I had to move forward without hearing I am sorry. I refuse to have unforgiveness hindering me from truly being happy; and enjoying life.
Do not allow I’m Sorry to be your downfall.
Some people do not have the capacity to acknowledge the need to apologize for wronging others. I’ve seen so many reality shows with friends fighting and then the expectation of someone to say the magic words, ‘I’m sorry.” When this does not occur, the hurt peer lashes out from the pain. Then you have hurting people, hurting each other. There is no resolve to the damage, if this type of behavior continues. As much as it pains you, forgive to live. A part of our life stops in that moment when we choose to live in the misery. Let me explain: if a close friend betrays your trust, you are hurt and upset by this action. Most likely, the friendship is over or it’s never the same. Fast forward down the line of life, a trust worthy person crosses our path who possess the qualities of a true confidant. Unfortunately, the wounds from the past keeps you from truly engaging in a relationship that has the potential to change your life. We have friends that give us a new lease on life. They have the capacity to open new doors in pursuing our purpose. I have people in my life who keep me grounded and progressive. We can also use a bad divorce, terrible boyfriend or girlfriend breakup in place of the reckless friend…different scenario, but same ending.
I’ve come to a place when someone hurts me, I quickly identify the hurt and tell myself, “I forgive them”. Now, it is not always easy. But, I cannot afford to wallow in offense. The best revenge is not your paper. It is forgiveness.